Breastfeeding Break-up
I consider Breastfeeding Break-up a cessation of breastfeeding caused from distress. This is not the natural weaning that evolves when mother and child are mutually done.
Breastfeeding Break-up is often sad and can leave mom, and baby, with unmet needs and grief.
From the moment we find out we are expecting, our role as Mother begins. Our body, actually before conception, starts caring for this new little being right away. And most of the time, we too begin making conscious efforts to live a healthier and more protective life for our little bundle. We might choose to start cutting out excess sugar from our diet, we decide not to go skiing this winter; we are making decisions for two.
And one of the decisions we are all faced with is how we will feed our baby once they are in our arms.
For some mothers this is a no brainer. "Of course I am going to breastfeed." Others, take time to research their options and sit with the feelings and commitment it requires.
But what happens when those hopes and dreams for breastfeeding are not met with real life easy and success? Once you noticed that you had a problem, maybe you were not able to find an IBCLC for clinical support and to cheer you forward. Maybe there was not a helpful network of moms who walked your path. It is HARD. And it is most often not a one-step and done fix. This leaves many moms without the strength to keep going and the baby without the healing or help they need to feed at the breast well.
There are numerous reasons that a mom might quit breastfeeding, from a lack of partner and family support, a baby who has structural problems that makes latching at the breast difficult, baby might have food sensitivities from mom's diet, shallow latching causing severe nipple damage, thus making feeding painful and emotional, sometimes unrelated health problems in mom or baby negatively impacts the breastfeeding relationship. These are some of the reasons moms end breastfeeding earlier than desired, for both mom and baby. Maybe the reason you stopped is here and maybe it is something else altogether.